How did you do with your New Year’s start? Did you take a few minutes to imagine the traction you wanted for yourself this year? I was thrilled to watch the clock tick midnight. I was eager to put another year behind me, knowing that I have better visions for myself today, and a whole lovely winter in which to stew and hone how they can serve my highest self.
I am always tipping each idea on its side with the question, is this good for my body and mind? Are your ideas and visions ones that inspire you to treat yourself better? When you stop and drop into the place where you feel yourself to be powerful, vital and happy, do you want to take action now? Creating a healthy vital picture, one you can feel, smell, and enjoy wakes up your body. I have an exalted image that radiates health, spiritual connection and joy, it is so alive to me, that when I remember to connect, my number one desire is to run through a field singing show tunes. It is much easier to do sit-ups singing “The Hills are Alive with the Sound of Music” than mumbling about my creaking back. The image is so powerful. I wonder, how come I don’t remember to connect 24/7?
If you want a change, it’s likely you have habits that don’t serve you. Choosing a simple consistent plan is where your power is. How does your best self behave that is different from you in need of change? Manifesting great health can be as simple as a plan to stretch while waiting in the Starbuck’s line. You might look crazy, but you will feel empowered. If you buy coffee everyday, that is an additional 7 stretching sessions. “Health” includes many components; I am focusing on taking actions that support my body. Eating whole foods, drinking water, knowing which exercises serve you, being in nature, laughing, taking time to sleep, all of these things are building blocks of an enriched physical experience. You know what feels triumphant so why is it so difficult to stick to the plan, to act on our best behalf? Why can’t I be as eager to run a 5k as I am to eat the left over brownie crumbs? Well we can, we just have to step back, take a look at our beliefs and see if we can make some room to reframe, so we can stick to our guns when we are tempted to weaken. Let’s take a look at some of the beliefs that rob us of our visionary victories.
1) Are you putting others needs ahead of your own? 2 weeks after you have given up sugar, you suddenly feel obliged to have some birthday cake with the rest of your family. Or maybe you have a glass of wine after you have decided not to consume carbs after 3:00 because your partner will feel uncomfortable drinking alone. It is only one glass; come on! Why be so selfish! STOP! You might THINK everyone’s welfare depends on you sacrificing yourself but it doesn’t. Remember everyone does better when you choose for you. There is a surprising irony when you realize no one can alter your chosen path if you don’t allow it. It is beautifully liberating. I recommend it.
2) Do you make excuses? I am too busy to make a healthy lunch, if only I had more time, I wouldn’t have to drive through the fast food joint. I have a routine, and every Tuesday is Taco Tuesday! I would miss my friends if I didn’t eat nachos!
We have all kinds of excuses about why we cannot do, be, or have what we want. It is the all or nothing sabotage that leaves no room for compromise. You can be healthy and go through a fast food drive through. You can skip the soda, and drink water with your fries (Have the fries now, we can work on those next month.) You can eat with the crew on Taco Tuesday, but notice the camaraderie is the important piece and not the extra guac. Baby steps, softening the rules and not turning the situation into the belief “I failed because I want friends!” Tease out what works in those all or nothing situations, and ask yourself “is there anyway I can turn this on its side so I can get the part I want and still walk away empowered?”
3) Is your life so full of stress that you barely have room to breathe let alone make room for change? Sometimes in the midst of a change for the better, we are waylaid by a life-event, a job challenge, or a family crisis that throws us off track. When I was young, I believed that I was broken and destined to fail. As long as I believed that there was a broken experience waiting for me, I found it. It took a lot of searching to finally realize that life happens and my greatest thermometer of health is my ability to respond to change. Have you thought about what you can do when your neck is up against the wall? When you feel alone and unloved? You can take action right now and make a list of the people you can always turn to when you need a shoulder. Keep that note, carry it and let yourself feed your heart and soul while the stress is high. When you start to tip the scales and feel more alive, reach out even more and add the tool that connects you to others and your highest self. Can you take guitar lessons or cooking classes? Organize dinners and trips to the park? Indulge in funny movies and massages? I get back on track by belly laughing, planning tomorrows victories and being involved with my friends. When I want to eat that frozen snickers in my fridge because I can’t face my Mother-in Law’s Sunday night phone call (the one where she lists all the reasons she needs more thank you notes), I call my friend instead of the snickers. She loves to suggest thank you note ideas. They are fairly undignified and always funny. I laugh, call my Mother in Law and go back to planning tomorrow’s victories.
So, sit down and create your best you vision, right now! Get that vibe rocking. Now present it with those sabotaging ideas we have just identified, how does the vibrant you respond? Are there some consistent behaviors you can add that will bring clarity and resolve? Great! Now get fanning that flame of the best you ever and next month we will look at the specifics of how your body will respond to your cues.