Who Needs to Change?

How did you do with your New Year’s start? Did you take a few minutes to imagine the traction you wanted for yourself this year? I was thrilled to watch the clock tick midnight. I was eager to put another year behind me, knowing that I have better visions for myself today, and a whole lovely winter in which to stew and hone how they can serve my highest self.

I am always tipping each idea on its side with the question, is this good for my body and mind? Are your ideas and visions ones that inspire you to treat yourself better? When you stop and drop into the place where you feel yourself to be powerful, vital and happy, do you want to take action now? Creating a healthy vital picture, one you can feel, smell, and enjoy wakes up your body. I have an exalted image that radiates health, spiritual connection and joy, it is so alive to me, that when I remember to connect, my number one desire is to run through a field singing show tunes. It is much easier to do sit-ups singing “The Hills are Alive with the Sound of Music” than mumbling about my creaking back. The image is so powerful. I wonder, how come I don’t remember to connect 24/7?

If you want a change, it’s likely you have habits that don’t serve you. Choosing a simple consistent plan is where your power is. How does your best self behave that is different from you in need of change? Manifesting great health can be as simple as a plan to stretch while waiting in the Starbuck’s line. You might look crazy, but you will feel empowered. If you buy coffee everyday, that is an additional 7 stretching sessions. “Health” includes many components; I am focusing on taking actions that support my body. Eating whole foods, drinking water, knowing which exercises serve you, being in nature, laughing, taking time to sleep, all of these things are building blocks of an enriched physical experience. You know what feels triumphant so why is it so difficult to stick to the plan, to act on our best behalf? Why can’t I be as eager to run a 5k as I am to eat the left over brownie crumbs? Well we can, we just have to step back, take a look at our beliefs and see if we can make some room to reframe, so we can stick to our guns when we are tempted to weaken. Let’s take a look at some of the beliefs that rob us of our visionary victories.

1) Are you putting others needs ahead of your own? 2 weeks after you have given up sugar, you suddenly feel obliged to have some birthday cake with the rest of your family. Or maybe you have a glass of wine after you have decided not to consume carbs after 3:00 because your partner will feel uncomfortable drinking alone. It is only one glass; come on! Why be so selfish! STOP! You might THINK everyone’s welfare depends on you sacrificing yourself but it doesn’t. Remember everyone does better when you choose for you. There is a surprising irony when you realize no one can alter your chosen path if you don’t allow it. It is beautifully liberating. I recommend it.

2) Do you make excuses? I am too busy to make a healthy lunch, if only I had more time, I wouldn’t have to drive through the fast food joint. I have a routine, and every Tuesday is Taco Tuesday! I would miss my friends if I didn’t eat nachos!
We have all kinds of excuses about why we cannot do, be, or have what we want. It is the all or nothing sabotage that leaves no room for compromise. You can be healthy and go through a fast food drive through. You can skip the soda, and drink water with your fries (Have the fries now, we can work on those next month.) You can eat with the crew on Taco Tuesday, but notice the camaraderie is the important piece and not the extra guac. Baby steps, softening the rules and not turning the situation into the belief “I failed because I want friends!” Tease out what works in those all or nothing situations, and ask yourself “is there anyway I can turn this on its side so I can get the part I want and still walk away empowered?”

3) Is your life so full of stress that you barely have room to breathe let alone make room for change? Sometimes in the midst of a change for the better, we are waylaid by a life-event, a job challenge, or a family crisis that throws us off track. When I was young, I believed that I was broken and destined to fail. As long as I believed that there was a broken experience waiting for me, I found it. It took a lot of searching to finally realize that life happens and my greatest thermometer of health is my ability to respond to change. Have you thought about what you can do when your neck is up against the wall? When you feel alone and unloved? You can take action right now and make a list of the people you can always turn to when you need a shoulder. Keep that note, carry it and let yourself feed your heart and soul while the stress is high. When you start to tip the scales and feel more alive, reach out even more and add the tool that connects you to others and your highest self. Can you take guitar lessons or cooking classes? Organize dinners and trips to the park? Indulge in funny movies and massages? I get back on track by belly laughing, planning tomorrows victories and being involved with my friends. When I want to eat that frozen snickers in my fridge because I can’t face my Mother-in Law’s Sunday night phone call (the one where she lists all the reasons she needs more thank you notes), I call my friend instead of the snickers. She loves to suggest thank you note ideas. They are fairly undignified and always funny. I laugh, call my Mother in Law and go back to planning tomorrow’s victories.

So, sit down and create your best you vision, right now! Get that vibe rocking. Now present it with those sabotaging ideas we have just identified, how does the vibrant you respond? Are there some consistent behaviors you can add that will bring clarity and resolve? Great! Now get fanning that flame of the best you ever and next month we will look at the specifics of how your body will respond to your cues.

Why You Should Dance.

After a certain age or stage in life, opportunities to dance dry up. Why don’t we dance more? Slapping the steering wheel and nodding my head is as close as I get. Would you like to grab that hairbrush and wail into it while jogging like an impatient 3 year old? imagesA national kiss of death came during an episode of Seinfeld, where Elaine is enthusiastically dancing totally convinced she looks amazing, while horrified bystanders wince nearby. So long electric slide, so long shimmy, hello humming, hello head nodding.

I know you look great when you shake your business. I have told all kinds of people that I can’t get enough of watching you work it out. So why do you listen to that voice in your head that says you look spas-tastic? If the voice in my head were actually able to see me undulate to I Melt with You, I might take some caution in my moves-but it can’t. As a matter of fact, I feel love for the whole world when I disappear in dance, so that has to be good right?

Here is the thing, when you dance you passively move your large muscle groups. Moving your large muscle groups passively increases range of motion and some other stuff. That is sexy right? It is sexy if you are into big fat oxygen loaded cells. When those muscles reach, contract and cabbage patch-this flush of happy oxygen floods exiting waste areas and makes repair opportunities right inside you!

Sam Rockwell shows you how to Lasso dance.

Sam Rockwell shows you how to Lasso dance.

Every time you raise your arm to lasso your spouse you heal! When you reel them in, you are actually squeezing out the days fatigue and allowing these beautiful chubby oxygen rich cells to enter deeply into your muscle belly. When you slap your rump you compress tissue and that is physically a slap of love. The more you get your freak on, the more you move your freak out.

I am not talking slow dancing to Rod Stewarts Great American Standards either. No one likes Ella Fitzgerald singing some Cole Porter more than me, but if you think she is going to pump that healing elixir into your stiff joints you are wrong. You are looking for music that pulls you out of your seat, music that when you hear it on the car radio you bite your lower lip and say “Oh yeah.” Music that as soon as it starts one of your children panics “mom don’t!” That is the music that will stir those muscles into their stress free jam. No build-up, no stress, just a fun easy exchange of old for awesome.

TIPS
Dougie: This is a great dance move for shoulder pain

Wobble: Practice this if you feel dead inside

Elaine dance from Seinfeld: Confidence booster~ you know you can do better!

You can dance for health. You will enjoy it and your muscles will have more flexibility and strength. Next time you hear an outrageous tune that moves you, let it move you it’s good for you!

Berkshire Nursing Families Team Trivia

11 years ago, when Eric and I first moved up to this area from New York City, I was asked to teach infant massage to the teen age girls who were new mothers. I was eager to show off my skills and make some connections at the Haskins House where they met for socializing and workshops. I came in pretty confident that I was going to bring the amazing power of massage to these fresh young Moms, that after an hour with my magic they would leave having all kinds of hope and joy.

After 3 minutes of group time with these girls, I was so gobsmacked I couldn’t talk let alone instruct. I was shocked and terrified. In New York City I knew which areas were great for Indian food, or what days consignment stores stocked the good stuff. In New York I created my life inch by inch, I had several jobs and opportunities all around. 3 minutes with these teens was the most humbling time of my life to that point. There were 7 new mothers, cheerfully asking each other what they had heard about the prom last weekend, while the facilitator handed out diapers and encouraged the ladies to listen to the nice massage person. None of these overwhelmed, single, inexperienced moms wanted anything to do with the lady in the sporty sweat suit, believe me. I had never seen so much helplessness and in that moment, I had no idea how to react. I had nothing in my bag of tricks to prepare me for that moment. What I wanted was to run away.

I am not proud of that afternoon, and I only offered that massage class a few more times before I stopped. I knew I was too full of myself, too full of judgement, to treat them with respect and compassion, and to look at what they needed and not what I wanted to shove at them.

Years later when I was pregnant I stumbled on a breast-feeding class led by Rosalie Girard at the North Adams Hospital. She was demonstrating how to latch on with a doll and everyone in the room was riveted. She spoke with care, and compassion. I wanted as much of her help as I could get. I felt so held in her company. I realized how frightened I was, I knew that I was in over my head with this impending Mother-dom. Rosalie visited me after the baby was born, she came to my house, she spoke to me with the compassion and respect I couldn’t muster for those young ladies.

I know from my years in the community that because Rosalie treats every new mother this way, She visits all new mothers in the hospital after giving birth. What is amazing is the percentage of mothers who breast feed in Northern Berkshire county compared to the rest of the country. It shouldn’t be so high, but knowing Rosalie it is a no-brainer.

More than instruct she has saved lives. She has found babies who are jaundiced, malnourished, in dire situations that left unattended to would have died. Rosalie goes into the homes of teenages, Drug users, felons and the priviledged. Her whole life is devoted to these little new lives and the mothers that feed them. I am raising money to support her and her mission. They rely almost completely on this one fundraising effort, BNF Team Trivia. If you have experienced Rosalie or feel your support would be a good fit, please send it to me
Molly Kerns (make the check payable to Berkshire Nursing Families) 136 Water Street, Williamstown, MA 01267. The Event is this Saturday, March 1st and I look forward to including your name to those who have already contributed.

I thank you in advance for the future babies you will support with your generosity.
Molly Kerns

What’s 2014 Look Like to You?

Do you want a new car? A romantic get-away? Breakfast in Bed? Complete a marathon?

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Last year Debbie and the biggest pile of magazines I have ever seen, led an amazing evening of discovery and unbounded creation.  It was such an unexpected delight to gather with a group of strangers, and cut up pictures, expressions and ideas and lay them out. The surprise was the true simplicity that emerged.  So satisfying is seeing our dreams laid out before us, that it is a wonder we are not cutting and pasting all day long.

What is a vision board? A vision board is a simple yet powerful visualization tool represented by a collage of the things that you want to have, be, or do in your life. It consists of a poster or foam board with cut-out pictures, drawings and/or writing on it of the things that you want in your life or the things that you want to become. The purpose of a vision board is to activate the law of attraction to begin to pull things from your external environment that will enable you to realize your dream. By selecting pictures and writing that charges your emotions with feelings of passion, you will begin to manifest those things in your life. From a new car to running a marathon, a vision board can be a first step in realizing your desires.photo (5)Debbie

 

If you have longed to explore the vision board idea, or are just looking for a group to create your next one, join us Wednesday February 12th at 5:30, at TSUBO Massage, 136 Water Street. The space is limited and all supplies are included. $15 in advance~ $20 at the door. Call to reserve your place as this class will sell out quick.

Massaging with Care: A Thai Massage Workshop for Couples

Just-in time for Valentines Day!

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We are so excited to welcome Justin Green’s amazing class in giving massage.  Justin’s gorgeous approach to body work is a gift to watch and recieve. In the upcoming class Massaging with Care, we can learn the basic intentions, movements and techniques Justin has honed for real connection through bodywork. Read on for more details, if interested call to register as space is limited.JustinGreenLR_031811-143

In this 2-hour workshop, couples deepen their relationship through the exchange of Thai
Yoga Massage, an energetic, dance-like form of bodywork practiced fully-clothed on the
ground. Through discussion and hands-on practice, couples learn how to give – and
receive – an effortless and nurturing massage sequence focused on the parts of the
body most often requested: neck, shoulders, back, and feet. The core concept of care
provides the foundation for this workshop as we emphasize quality of touch, joy in giving, and using massage as a way of cultivating more intimate connection.
Things to know:
– No massage or yoga experience needed.
– Wear comfortable, yoga-esque clothing.
– Bring a yoga mat (if you have one).
– Kneeling postures are used throughout the flow. If you have any questions about the
physical demands of the workshop, please contact Justin (justin@justingreenmassage.com) or Molly (Molly@tsubomassage.com)
Couples will come away from this workshop having received, and learned how to give,
an accessible massage sequence – a new way of connecting – that can be practiced
virtually anywhere.
For couples of any sexual orientationJustinGreenLR_031811-146 or relationship. Bring your partner or your mom, your roommate or your best friend.

Workshop is Thursday February 13th from 5:30-7:30 at Tsubo Massage, 136 Water Street in Williamstown. Call for information 413-458-0321 $50 a couple in advance ($25 each) or $60 at the door. Space is extremely limited. Attention to everyone extremely available. Read More »

Affordable Massage at Tsubo


When I went the Swedish Institute of Massage back in 1992, massage was not as well known or available to the masses. My classmates were middle class 20 yr.olds  dabbling in the world of massage and as indicated by the massive drop-out rate, not intending to make it a career.  A few of them are still in some kind of healing work, but I only know of one other who is actually massaging.  If you are staying at the Four Seasons in NYC I will give you her name, she is amazing.

When I was invited to Mildred Elley school last spring to speak, I was shocked by the tenacious and diverse group of people finishing the massage program.  I was there to talk about working at Tsubo Massage vs. other spas in the area. I thought I would impress them with my knowledge of anatomy and the value of excellent footwear.  What they wanted to know, was something much more immediate. They wanted to know how they could get more experience? How could they be exposed to different postural challenges? How does spasm change with heat? How does a trigger point release? How? How? How? Questions all answered by experience.

That day inspired Tsubo Massage’s Clinic now available 3 days a week.  I have found training talented LMT’s  to be very rewarding, but only if those LMT’s are willing to be watched, critiqued and directed over and over again for up to a year.These new Massage Therapists are willing and raring for more.

Their drive is inspiring, but it is the care, the desire to heal and help that gets me up in the morning.  They remind the older therapists that we have come along way, but each massage is not about us, it never is and that is why it is so beautiful.  Giving, helping and supporting is what keeps us in it everyday.

Our clinic combines low cost, focused bodywork and mentoring from senior therapist, Jen Messer and individual instruction from me, Molly Kerns. At Tsubo we are honing what they do and how they do it. We are expanding their ability to identify compromised tissue and techniques to release pain.We are giving them space, experience and guidance to be the healers they are so eager to become.

There is nothing like a massage from a new therapist. Nothing compares to the level of interest, earnest effort and intense focus. I invite you to come to clinic and experience the pleasure of receiving massage from someone who not only cares about what is happening for you, but what is happening to you.

FAQ

What are we doing exactly? Tsubo Massage has created a training program for our newly hired licensed therapists. Our intention is to develop and focus talented therapists who want to be effective, safe and excellent bodyworkers for our busy Williamstown office.  These new therapists have an eagerness and enthusiasm that lends itself perfectly to a mentoring clinic environment.

Do I have to take off my clothes? No.  Many areas of the body can be worked on in a 30 minute massage without ever approaching the major muscle groups that would require undressing. Neck, head, feet, and hands all benefit immensely from massage. Stretching, shiatsu massage, and reflexology are all available should you want to stay fully dressed.  The level to which you are comfortable will be discussed at the start of the massage.
 
Can I book an entire hour?  Yes.  Simply reserve and pay for two consecutive sessions and you’ll receive a 60-minute massage.

Can I request a certain therapist? If you have preferences for a male or female therapist, deep or light work, or any previous injury/experience that might be helpful in arranging your massage, email Molly at molly@tsubomassage.com. We cannot guarantee specific therapist availability, and will notify you if we are unable to honor your request.

Do I need to bring anything? May I tip the therapist? You only need to bring yourself. You have booked and paid online. You are welcome to tip and the therapists appreciate it very much.

Times are filling up quickly, so book today!

Williams College Massage Clinic

Would you like to lower your stress level, get connected with your body, improve your immune system, increase flexibility, sleep better, and improve your vitality?  Williams College wants this for you too, but has arranged with Tsubo Massage to make it convenient to find, easy to schedule, and simple to work into your day!

On Tuesdays and Thursdays from 11:30am – 2:00pm, Tsubo Massage is offering a massage clinic for Williams College employees on the 2nd floor of the American Legion at the bottom of Spring Street (across from Tunnel City Coffee). The massage times fit easily into your lunch hour, are easy to book online, and offered at only $25 for a 30-minute massage.

The Clinic has moved over to Tsubo Massage at 136 Water Street, and is available Thursdays from 11:30 -2:15pm.

You must book and pay for your session online.
CLICK HERE to view available dates and times. When booking a session, you will be prompted to register with a login and password, which will allow future bookings and make record keeping for flex pay simple and easy. After you select the sessions you would like to book, simply checkout and pay using our secure processor.

FAQ
 
What are we doing exactly?
Tsubo Massage has created an apprenticeship program for newly licensed therapists to develop new talent for our busy Williamstown office.  These new therapists have an eagerness and enthusiasm that lends itself perfectly to a mentoring clinic environment. Williams College was eager to host the clinics and is excited to be able to offer this massage opportunity to faculty and staff as a part of their wellness programs.

Do I have to take off my clothes? No.  Many areas of the body can be worked on in a 30 minute massage without ever approaching the major muscle groups that would require undressing. Neck, head, feet, and hands all benefit immensely from massage. Stretching, shiatsu massage, and reflexology are all available should you want to stay fully dressed.  The level to which you are comfortable will be discussed at the start of the massage.
 
Can I book an entire hour?  Yes.  Simply reserve and pay for two consecutive sessions and you’ll receive a 60-minute massage.

Can I request a certain therapist? If you have preferences for a male or female therapist, deep or light work, or any previous injury/experience that might be helpful in arranging your massage, email Molly at molly@tsubomassage.com. We cannot guarantee specific therapist availability, and will notify you if we are unable to honor your request.

Do I need to bring anything? May I tip the therapist? You only need to bring yourself. You have booked and paid online. You are welcome to tip and the therapists appreciate it very much.

Times are filling up quickly, so book today!

Lower Your Stress Level with Mindfulness

Some of my favorite people practice Transcendental Meditation.  Oprah, Jerry Seinfeld, a few of us here at Tsubo Massage.  I have been interested since I saw a very dear friend undergo a shift from feeling trapped (for years) and hopeless, to open-hearted and at peace. I asked him what had happened, why did he look so much younger and content?  His answer was TM.  That was not my first introduction to it, I have been curious about meditation since massage school. I always questioned am I doing it correctly?  Is what I do even meditation at all? How can I get it more into my life?

I have finally decided it’s time to call the experts! I have invited Gail and John Clessler from West Stockbridge to come to Tsubo Massage and share their information and expertise of TM.   Below is a link to their invitation, and if you think you would like to attend, just call 413-458-0321 to RSVP or email me at Molly@tsubomassage.com .  Light refreshments will be provided, it is informal and spouses are welcome. Please forward this to anyone you think might be interested, it is a great opportunity so close to home.

Invitation to Learn TM at Tsubo Massage

This one-hour introduction will be conducted by certified TM teachers, Gail and John Clessler from the TM Center in West Stockbridge. The Clesslers have been teachers of TM for over 35 years, and collectively have taught at the highest levels of government, business and education throughout the US, Europe and parts of Asia. I know you will enjoy meeting them.

Lower Your Blood Pressure

Stress running your day?

Every year, Williams College has a wellness fair where they set up over 30 tables of wellness solutions for their enormous faculty and staff. Tsubo Massage has often been invited and we are usually very close to the blood pressure cuff. It is wonderful when the nurse taking everyone’s reading, comes over and declares “we have them face the Tsubo table because just looking at massage lowers their pressure!”

It is proven time and time again. Massage lowers blood pressure by reducing stress. When you lie down on the table, your muscles stop moving, your breath gets deeper, you have to stop the chatter in your head and for  a few minutes your body can reorganize. The impulse to release stress and relax is such a powerful desire that your blood pressure lowers just watching someone else get a massage!  What could happen if you gave your self a few minutes of massage?  Deepened your breath for a minute? Your body is always trying to self correct and heal all it needs is a chance.

On March 14th at noon in the Greylock Hall Makepeace room, I will be leading a class in self massage, meditation and lowering your blood pressure. I will be offering a few very easy ways to take down your stress level in the office or at home. Taking a moment out of your day to say “am I stressed?” Then having the tools to address that stress will enhance your body awareness and confidence. It will add years to your life and smiles to your day.

Win a Massage!

Is a chance to win a 90 minute massage worth $10? Your $10 goes to saving babies lives, so  you win twice.  This woman’s work with boobs will have you wishing you could lactate all over again.
12 years ago, when Eric and I first moved to the Berkshires from New York City, I was asked to teach an infant massage to new teen moms in North Adams.  Eager to show off my skills, I was certain that the amazing power of massage would transform these fresh young moms – that just one hour of my magic would fill them with hope and joy.

Just minutes into my first class, I was so out of my element that I couldn’t talk,  let alone instruct.  I’d entered completely unfamiliar territory.  There were seven teenage mothers, cheerfully asking each other what they’d heard about the previous weekend’s prom, while the facilitator handed out diapers and encouraged the young ladies to listen to the nice massage person.  None of these overwhelmed, inexperienced moms were prepared to handle what I had to offer and I had no experience to prepare me for that moment.  We all wanted to run away.

I’m not proud of that afternoon, and I only offered the class a few more times.  I knew I was ill equipped to treat them with the respect and compassion they deserved – to look at what they needed and not what I thought they should want.

Years later, when I was pregnant with my first child, I happened upon a breast-feeding class led by Rosalie Girard at the North Adams Hospital.  It was a diverse group of moms-to-be, from teenagers to thirty-somethings like myself.  Rosalie taught us with both passion and compassion, and I wanted as much of her help as I could get.  It made me realize how frightened I was of my impending motherhood and I couldn’t stop thinking about those seven teenage girls and the terror they must have been experiencing. Rosalie visited me after my daughter was born and gave me what I hadn’t been able to offer those young ladies.

Not enough people know that Rosalie and her staff at Berkshire Nursing Families spend time with every new mother who gives birth at the North Adams Hospital.   And their incredible work speaks for itself.  In defiance of demographics, the number of babies who are breastfed in Northern Berkshire county is significantly higher than the state and national averages.  And it all happens one baby at a time.

While much of her work is simply to provide instruction and support, Rosalie’s home visits have saved lives.  She has found babies who are jaundiced, malnourished, and in other life-threatening situations.  Her singular devotion to these new little lives and the mothers that feed them is astounding.

While Berkshire Nursing Families receives some funding from the hospital, the balance of their budget must be raised through contributions and an annual fundraising event, BNF Team Trivia.  The 2013 event will be held this Saturday, March 2, and I am working to raise money to support BNF’s valuable role in our community.

If you donate $10 before 1pm Saturday March 2nd, 2013 you will be entered to win a 90 minute massage with Molly!

If you would like to contribute, You can drop it off at Tsubo or please send it to me

Molly Kerns (make the check payable to Berkshire Nursing Families)

Tsubo Massage

136 Water Street
Williamstown, MA 01267
413-458-0321
I thank you in advance on behalf of the all the future moms and babies your generosity will help.

Molly Kerns